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You ever get that itch to totally reinvent yourself?

Like, out of nowhere you’re suddenly deep into a productivity YouTube rabbit hole, cleaning your whole room at midnight, rearranging your apps, and telling yourself: "Okay, new era starts now."

Same. I’ve been there more times than I can count.
And honestly? Sometimes that reset energy feels amazing -refreshing, hopeful, exciting.

But here’s the catch: when we chase glow-ups on repeat, they can quietly turn into a loop. One that makes you feel like no version of yourself is ever quite enough. Like you’re always one more hack, one more aesthetic morning, one more life overhaul away from finally feeling okay in your own skin.

If that resonates, let’s slow down and sort through it together.

🪞 The Glow-Up Loop (and why it feels so familiar)

The internet makes reinvention feel like a competitive sport.
There’s always a new That Girl morning routine. A shiny wellness aesthetic. A productivity method that promises this is finally the thing that will transform your life.

And sometimes? These things do help!
But sometimes they quietly morph into a full-time job one where you’re chasing a constantly moving target of self-improvement. Until suddenly you’re burnt out by your own checklist and wondering how you ended up here again.

That’s the loop:

✨ Feel stuck → 📈 Plan a total glow-up → 😵‍💫 Burn out trying to become a new version of yourself overnight → 😔 Feel stuck again → Repeat

It’s exhausting. And it’s easy to fall into, because chasing glow-ups gives us a false sense of control.
If I can just get it perfect this time, maybe I’ll finally feel okay.

But here’s the truth: glowing up doesn’t mean constantly chasing a better version of yourself.

🌱 Growth isn’t a performance

You are allowed to grow slowly. Softly. Quietly. In ways that don’t look aesthetic on Instagram or TikTok.
In ways no one else even sees.

In fact, sometimes the biggest glow-ups aren’t visible at all. They’re internal. They’re human. Like:

• Saying no without explaining yourself

• Setting boundaries and not spiraling afterward

• Choosing rest instead of punishing yourself for needing it

• Speaking kindly to yourself after a rough day

That’s growth.
No big new era required. No perfect planner. No “before and after” post.

Just real, lived change.

🌀 Why we crave reinvention (even when we’re tired)

Psychologists suggest that part of our obsession with reinvention comes from a deep discomfort with the in-between …the messy middle. The uncertainty. The ordinary.

And glow-ups feel like an escape hatch.
They promise that if you can just get it all together, you won’t have to sit in that discomfort anymore. But healing and growth aren’t linear. They’re cyclical.
You’ll revisit the same patterns again and again, with more awareness, more softness, more resilience each time. That’s not failure. That’s being human.

In fact, studies on behavioral change (like James Prochaska’s Transtheoretical Model) show that lasting transformation happens in stages: precontemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance — with plenty of looping and recycling between them.

Translation? You don’t have to glow up perfectly. You don’t have to get it right the first time.
It’s not about speed, it’s about sustainability.

📓 Instead of a Glow-Up Checklist, Try This

If you’re craving a shift but tired of the pressure to “fix” yourself, here’s a softer approach to try:

Ask yourself:

• What’s something I’ve outgrown, even if I can’t explain why?

• What habits feel like mine — and which ones feel like someone else’s expectations?

• What would a softer version of self-improvement look like for me?

Maybe your glow-up this season is unfollowing five accounts that make you feel less than and doubt yourself. Maybe it’s drinking water in the morning, right after you wake up. Maybe it’s finally deleting that doomscrolling app that drains your time and your spirit.

Small shifts. Big impact. Real growth.

And no, you don’t need to wait for a perfect version of yourself to show up to your life.
You’re allowed to take up space exactly as you are, with exactly the capacity you have right now.

Here’s to your quiet, imperfect, beautiful glow-up. 🌸

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